Get her to explain what she believes, and how it might differ from her church. Maybe he found a nice Mormon girl after all. Many Mormon girls place the cart before the horse. Although most of our communication is through text. If so, then step away from the internet and go look him in the eyes and take his hands and start asking him all the questions you asked me. Fell in love with his passion for his love for neurology. Patience my dear, that's what you're going to have to keep telling yourself.
If she says that the mission was the greatest experience and best two years of her life, any chance you have at a normal long-term healthy relationship is dim unless you convert. At what age do you baptize. She sounds so indoctrinated that like even if you try to get her to open up, who knows you might get like a BJ out of it doesn't sound like it but who knowsyou have to realize that a lifetime of conditioning will be set in motion in her mind that will make your life hell.
A lot of Mormons escape that pitfall and can put people first. I think there's a chance you two can find a way to agree on a lifestyle and values. If your doctor husband says "impossible", ignore him. You should be fine as long as you stick to the lines you have laid out. I also definitely don't want her raising my future children, though, and I'll be very clear about that. It has nothing to do with their career. IF she becomes an Atheist free thinker like you then consider keeping her. It is difficult to learn to have no expectations towards him, even though our mindset towards medicine is the same. She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious.
There will be sacrifices but I am hopeful. I have been reading this blog for a while now but this is the first time I have felt I needed to add my two cents in. Many times, that is exactly what it really does feel like Yes I'am all to aware about those silly answers regarding pay and "don't worry be happy" boloney. All that matters to her is things are how they are because god wants them that way. She went ahead a married a non member. If it is even possible, would it strengthen or weaken their ability to develop a personal relationship with their Heavenly Father. Take the crazy and add a ton of even crazier shit on on top and Your girlfriend literally believes in a book of scripture that was produced from a rock in Josephs Hat. Take issues as they arise, rather than throwing away what could be a good experience for you and her based off of what might happen. Your husbands love you, and love that you are able to do what they cannot. Having said that I'm not looking to get married any time soon, so no.