I want him to commit more to his family and himself. Whereas I think of him all the time. He will have to be okay with being thought not good enough to help in circumstances in which you believe that priesthood power is needed. God will help you both work this out. It sounds like she's already considered marrying you and raising children in the church even with you being out of the church. Going back in time, it was never encouraged for people to marry outside their faith and this covered most christian religions in the United States.
I was thinking the same thing when I read this. All you care about is the paycheck. LDS theology heavily promotes the idea that marriage and family are an important source of happiness in this life, not just the next. My relationship is the same way. The church didn't do it to her but it helped create the environment that allowed it to happen. Having said that I'm not looking to get married any time soon, so no. We have all felt it and our house seems absolutely different.
But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either. I have rediscovered what I love about the church but choose not to attend or participate. The foundation of our relationship began with God and he will always be in the center. My parents, siblings and grandparents are all active members; as am I. I married my husband 11 years ago, when he was an undergrad student. Mormons think when you die, based on if you were a good person cough cough atheists you go to spirit "paradise" where they will teach you the gospel.
Do not make anything risque public. Then she can have a chance to actually be the individual she is, and they can have an adult conversation about their future and whether or not they have one. God told me to marry my husband. I'd rather marry a doctor and let him have a mistress on the side if that means not having to worry about money. I have been happily married to a non-mormon for 20 years. Keep things going and see what happens. Since her father is a bishop, I'm sure he'll want to have his daughter marry a temple worthy person. And Mormons were basically encouraged to marry other mormons.