Vh65, your marriage is a black swan. Dating in your teenage years will help you learn the kinds of things you value in another person. Seek advice, and like the chick said, talk and talk and talk untill its all sorted out in your mind, and in his.
The big one is that under Mormon theology both of you must be believing, fully active members to live together in the afterlife. Anyways, after I was temporarily "crazy" during my masters degree studies, my husband and I began reading the book: I think we had been too busy to invest in our relationship, and in the book were reminded of how much we needed to work for our relationship. The religious differences between you two are a deal-breaking fault. And now, a final word: Send your query to askmormongirl gmail. My husband is a 3rd year ENT resident, and we started dating right before he started med school. If you are an atheist or a non-believer, then let your date know, and politely decline the invitation. And here's an excellent video on the importance of religious freedom. I am sure you can all guess how this ends As his moving date was approaching, he was spending more and more time with his friends and less and less time with me.
Mormonism is not meant to be a casual part of a Mormon's life but it is meant to be the center. She might be everything you want, but in her eyes you are not what she has been dreaming of her whole life. Maybe we'll break up in a month. Chances are you can't though.
Fortunately most of my immediate family has done better. I just happened upon your blog I'm a doctor's wife as well - rural family medicine and I just wanted to agree with you that "have no expectations" is awesome advice. I volunteer every week, I put others before myself, etc. I prayed about whether to marry this man, and I felt and still feel strongly that it was right for me. You I think are ok with that. No hard feelings, is not his fault, I said yes when he proposed based on the life wee had at that time, my fault for not doing some re search and find out how is really when you are a register or in the training programme.