In fact, when I first met him, I had no idea he was even a full fledged doctor. I never give him shit for it. Thanks so much for the links. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. I told her that is noble but she would be selfish to marry and work 80 hour work weeks yet if she does marry I can not see any man who would selflessly give over decades for the sake of his wife's career. Looking back, I can say that when I received this answer to my prayers, I was at one of the most spiritually high moments of my life. Even after being in a relationship I have to take all the decision alone. Life is too short. That is the shit storm on the road ahead of you.
I married for companionship but now all I do is wait for him to stop working, to come home, to call me back, to have time, which is hardly ever. I can honestly say this isn't worth it. I would go ahead and make boundaries with the conversation about kids and church, if that is your preference. He is super busy, and is learning all he can about lifesaving methods, and they are killing him at the hospital right now. It sounds like you two haven't gotten exceptionally close and that it wouldn't be too hard on either of you to jump ship and move on.
I hate that it's all on his terms. I am getting increasingly more resentful of the times I think he can choose us instead of residency. Just let things keep going. Men search the world for women that they can stand to be around with long-term. I do think this girl is a keeper, and I'm more than willing to tolerate, be patient and live with the crazy schedule. We get along exceptionally well and I really like him though, so I can see this going somewhere.
I would not fear as much as she does, but that is her reality. More success stories All success stories Hide success stories. I'm really glad to hear a few of you have stories of happy interfaith relationships, or leaving the church together, so there's always a chance. Hopefully they have some say in it, but I'm speaking about other churchgoers' expectations here, and probably your wife's.