There are so many potential problems they would fill a book. You should want to keep things new and interesting, as you would in any relationship, while still allowing your date to maintain the standards of her faith. Notify me of new posts via email. But when my oldest daughter hit 12, the lessons started to have one major theme: This is what girls are told should be their primary goal. In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. He could come home from trips and I was too worn out to fake the good cheer. We were planning on doing it on memorial day weekend so we could get married on a sunday between graduation and residency but that is a Jewish holiday. So marrying a doctor might be ideal for me. The scriptures say that one of the main reasons good people don't join the church is because they just haven't been introduced to it. And if you do belong to a ward full of cretins, you must do everyone a favor and just ignore them until they go extinct.
I am sure you can all guess how this ends As his moving date was approaching, he was spending more and more time with his friends and less and less time with me. God will help you both work this out. I am really in love with him.
In the end, if the guy is the keeper you say he is then go with your gut. There is still a chance you can work out your differences, but it will require major concessions on both sides. While I do get to accompany him to various dinners and parties, we hardly ever have time together just us, and when we do, he just wants to relax over dinner and decompress. I kept thinking things would get better at some point, but they didn't. I am a non-Mormon who moved to Utah for college.
But realistically, if she is not open minded enough to even listen to someone who has a contrasting view of the church - how will she not continually discount you and your lack of beliefs. As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. Let her go right now then. I appreciate your honest, and I really like the way you phrased things, particularly this sentence: Thank you for your comments. If you can love them unconditionally with how they are now, then I say go for it. This also means giving her something specific to do. She was masterful at hiding the cuts and bruises with clothing. I do not see this going well. Nobody has prepared her for one, definitely haven't prepared her for a healthy physical relationship.