If your spouse thinks 8 is too young to get baptized, are you all right with waiting until they are older. If I'm focused on something like reading a textbook, or working on some problem then I might still think of him vaguely but I'm not going to whip out my phone or go and see himI'm busy. Though my mother never openly complained about this, I could see it in her eyes. If I were you, I would sever the relationship and find someone else. All these post confirming how doctors cheat all the time on their spouse kills me and my hope in a future with him. In 5 years, one thing has become certain to me. Reading has become difficult, because I have trouble focusing. For every lesson and sermon preached about loving everyone, there are one or two lessons on avoiding outsiders because they will destroy your eternity. I thought she would grow out of it. We are long distance, and it is hard, because when we are together I spend much of time alone waiting for him to come back from the hospital.
The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. Choose courses based on your needs. What upsets me most is that he didn't realize it was my birthday, or a big one and then that his reaction was to get defensive about his plans rather than offer an alternative for celebrating with me. Be open and talk about your ideals.
I want to do that though with my husband involved, not be married and be like a single mum. Response to your edit: Do NOT bring up or mention anything that could be considered "anti Mormon. My husband has the benefit of having his cake and eating it too. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. We have to show them we care.
You can't reason with fanatics, and you got one. There is NO guarantee that marrying a returned missionary RM in the temple equates with love and happiness. All I can think about is the fact that his schedule means that I will have to be the one to shoulder all the parenting and household responsibilities. She went ahead a married a non member. My husband not only supports me going to church he encourages it because he knows that it is a part of me and makes me happy. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. If it is a good honest relationship with two well-meaning people, you need to put work into it. Mormons can be pretty crazy without it.