Put your best foot forward; be soft-spoken, courteous, well-mannered, chivalrous, and respectful. And on my part, I felt I needed to go out and live harder, party more, be more social, etc. And I don't have issues with her, hell, haven't even seen her in over 20 years, but the experience with the whole Mormon thing gave me better insight in to many things in life. There will always be difference between spouses. Dude just to summarize what I think is the majority of the comments. It sounds like you two haven't gotten exceptionally close and that it wouldn't be too hard on either of you to jump ship and move on. Would she be okay with having a home that is split religiously. Anyone who's a decent human being should be able to know right from wrong and act accordingly. If I were you, I would sever the relationship and find someone else.
I work full time as well and have supported him throughout med school. We are still struggling to put our life back together for the sake of our marriage and our 3 boys, but it is a difficult path. Maybe he thinks it wouldn't be a bad idea to cheat - these women understand him. She has encouraged me to read LDS. Had to switch to more flexible job.
I knew this bothered me, but it wasn't until I read this section that it hit much how much it bothered me and how alone I feel. Vh65, your marriage is a black swan. I kept thinking things would get better at some point, but they didn't. If I were you, I would sever the relationship and find someone else. Please girls advice me because this is already really overwhelming. In my home ward, the non-member son of one of the members of the Bishopbric was able to stand up with the Priesthood and hold his baby girl while they gave her baby blessing. And of course we have been taughtвby Brigham Young, at leastвthat even when Christ comes during the Millenium there will be those who will not accept him as their Savior even if they accept him as the leader of the world. Tough to say what will impact your girl most - but there's your best LDS. Willl he build resentment at the struggle to get him to change whether real or imagined.
Ultimately, it comes down to this. He expects gourmet meals and an immaculate house. Another simple and doable option is to go online; there are many LDS dating sites where you can sign up and meet new and interesting people. Don't expect this to be like the others. Her Religion is more important than you will ever be Her Religion comes first and deep down, she will come to hate you for not accepting joining her religion.