Are you going to keep the sabbath holy as a family, or is he going to take the kids out for pizza after church, leaving you home to observe alone. My parents, siblings and grandparents are all active members; as am I. Think of every possible scenario you can think of.
He spends about 80 hours a week at the hospital. Just know that she has been indoctrinated to believe that she wont reach the highest level of heaven if she isn't married in a Mormon temple to another Mormon. Because Utah mormons are waayyy different than mormons everywhere else. That will most likely be the deal breaker for her. They have heavy-handed laws, free handouts, unfair advantages for getting jobsвa loud feminist illusion spoon fed to them. Reconciling this with the doctrine of temple marriage is trickier. He will not be permitted to bless the child in front of the ward, for instance, so you will have to choose to forego that ritual or find someone else to stand in for the father, which he may not be comfortable with.
I chanced upon this post because I was looking for help. If you are all sealed together, you will be together forever in the Celestial Kingdom. Happy hour is out of the question. We need to get over ourselves and start loving each other how the Lord intended. The Mormon culture has mastered the forked tongue.
I haven't read every post like you probably havebut I've read a lot of them. This can keep the relationship from getting too exclusive, and spending time with more people can give you a wider variety of things to do. At the risk of overloading this post, I'm going to copy and paste here, a Reddit comment that I made in this exmo sub the other day. My boyfriend is currently in his third year of medical school. A grandpa sense of humor and occasional clever line from an old movie go a long way.