I'd suggest the essays. The independent work is just as important as the work we do as a couple. We just celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary We have 5 children and like so many I feel alone most days. Mormonism is fundamental to my religious beliefs and my personal sense of identity, and it is the community that I identify with most strongly. I hope he wised up.
I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. This can keep the relationship from getting too exclusive, and spending time with more people can give you a wider variety of things to do. Then you might want to talk about all the things her church requires.
Girls aren't socially required to be missionaries, unlike men. Then we can at least cuddle and go to bed together. He says it is harmless and is only fantasy as there is no touching involved. God roots for both our teamsвthe hopeful screw-ups and the straights. Invest in your love and keep it strong. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. I am so glad I found this blog. Probably, not Mount Meadows level, but be prepared to have to apologize on her behalf a lot. Funny thing is he told me when we met that he was ready to stop focusing so much on work and start focusing more on his life.
Mormons are also taught "Families can be together forever. Every one thinks I'am a single parent. These are nice people. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. I am so beyond afraid of what lies ahead in terms of residency; the loneliness, missing out on years of family experiences together, raising two kids by myself we have a 1. The yard stick he uses to assess what is "normal" is so warped that he has lost touch with what a happy life could look like he often berates himself for feeling so miserable given how "easy" his schedule is at just 65 hours a week, not like surgery or some other 80 hour a week speciality. Honestly, unless you want to convert and: And, if she does claim those things don't matter, be prepared to find out how much they really do after you've married her. However, "medical families" can work. I feel unwanted most of the time but I know he tries to make time. She can only get sealed to him in a Mormon temple.