Like you I grew up with and taught the standard LDS beliefs about temple marriage, celestial kingdom, etc. You love a medical guy. Many men have begun leaving the Church in their early twenties as the mission has become more important. However, "medical families" can work. Married to a Surgeon as well. I think in most situations its either you join or she leaves- either you, or the church. Follow the footnotes and you start to find the lies. You just can't imagine the heap o' hurt you're potentially setting yourself up for.
So it is going to be over anyway. We are trying to work together to live together in 3 years but since we are homosexuals and in an arabic country its kinda hard to try to live here so we have to wait for her to graduate to get out of here. Do you believe in the Gospel as taught by the Church. I completely agree, but I think the critical part is that he needs to talk to her. In the end people have to make their own decisions. My seminary teacher went off on me about dating a non Mormon when I was talking about going to his prom.
But the issue of marrying a non-member raises two fundamental problems: That idea seems so contrary to the nature of God. But wait a minute. IF she becomes an Atheist free thinker like you then consider keeping her. What I meant was I'm wondering if it will get noticeably easier in terms of his schedule in the next few years and right after he finishes, or if it will always feel like this when it comes to being with someone in his profession. I so agree with all these points about surviving medicine.
But you are setting yourself up to leave the Church more easily, and even if you agree the children will be raised Mormon, your kids will likely not continue to participate in the Church as adults. Do you drink alcohol. They have money for nannies, trips, vacation homes, their children go to the finest colleges, etc. Where we have just started dating less then a year now.