As my husband learns about Mormonism I get to see it through his fresh eyes. Masculine attributes attract healthy, beautiful women, no matter where they come from. I married a non-member over 20 years ago. While dating is a good time to get to know someone, if you are young it is better to go on group dates.
My faith, while less orthodox, has certainly matured. Imagine if all the men in the world weighed over pounds and acted like slobs. If it's true, it'll come out of the criticism looking better. I've been working like crazy myself, so it is easy for me to understand time issues involved in drs' training. Either way, if you have kids and you don't convert, she will divorce you and take your kids away from you and you will be shunned from her community. Their son grew up to become a temple president.
I find that having zero expectations, single parenting and having my own life makes our marriage work well. Yes, talk talk talk about everything yoiu can think of, but beyond that I would suggest pre-marital counseling from people knowledgeable in each tradition at play this will probably take two different counselors, who might be faith-based. Yes, those of us in the hospital work longer and harder days than most people with 9 to 5s, but we still have off days. This is wonderful and in accordance with the desires of a loving Father in Heaven, but it can turn a marriage on its ear, if the spouse is unprepared. Marriage is meant to be eternal. You can't gamble on her seeing Mormonism for the shit show that it is. But you are setting yourself up to leave the Church more easily, and even if you agree the children will be raised Mormon, your kids will likely not continue to participate in the Church as adults.
I appreciate your honest, and I really like the way you phrased things, particularly this sentence: Thank you for your comments. Maybe he thinks it wouldn't be a bad idea to cheat - these women understand him. If He can answer prayers to help you find missing car keys, He surely can help you understand who it is that you should marry.