She is considered "an old maid" by Mormon standards, so she may be willing to marry you--hoping you will convert someday --but she will constantly be reminded that your marriage is inferior to the "Eternal Families" of sealed Mormons, and she will fear dying and never seeing her loved ones again. I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also. Be open to the wisdom the Spirit will share. It started making me feel very nervous and apprehensive at the thought of having a family, and having all of his time be consumed by his work. I am a doctors wife. The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming.
He has become engrossed with pornography and having cybersex via cam with random women he meets in game rooms. I often contemplate divorcing my husband so that I could seek happiness elsewhere, or at least companionship. Not one little bit. Do not put up with bad behavior at any stage of a relationship. Many, many lapsed Mormons catch the true vision of the gospel at some time in their lives and desire to repent and become observant again. I think that if these two really care about each other that she should be told to take a moment and ask herself how she would feel if they break up over this and years later she finally researches her religion.
These same principles have helped build strong, successful religious communities for thousands of years. I am so in need of a support group. Imagine if all the men in the world weighed over pounds and acted like slobs.
I have finally realized that the church is fake and I'm so grateful that I got a second chance with this guy. I would leave him note reminding him how important his work was. Your man is becoming a doctor, and while he's still a resident carving his way into the field, his off days will be few and far between. I found that it worked just as well. I'll keep digging through it, but there's a lot there and I'd like some suggestions to narrow my search.