I truly believe that if a man cheats he was always inclined to do so. Many others have asked the same question in the past so you may want to find those and read the responses there. First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed. I married a person, not a religion. Had to switch to more flexible job. And don't fall for all their talk of being open and welcoming.
I had a single mom friend who only had her kids every other week and she was treated with kid gloves. The importance of tithing your money. There are a million fish in the sea and it makes no sense to choose one with whom you are not religiously compatible.
I also expected that my spouse would be temple worthy and that I would get married in the temple, which was not the case. After all, when he IS around, he never makes them do anything they don't want to do, and he buys them expensive things to make up for being absent from their lives so much. I feel I have given a lot of myself and in the process have lost myself and my identity. But no one can move on to one of the 3 Kingdoms until they accept Christ and totally repent. Sometimes I feel burned out, but I have to carry on. I have spent my life alone waiting for things to get better. She doesn't want to marry you. The church essays that address that linked at www.
My boyfriend is just going into his third year of med school. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. She will try to convert you. What can I or your spouse do to make my spouse feel more important besides not being a physician. If a direct contact is simply not possible given the residency schedule, then how about a bedtime phone call.