They seriously have movies about it. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. Racial differences can be very trivialвthey really didn't come up much for my parents, for exampleвand are basically false differences. And for mormons, the goal is always a temple marriage and a marriage for the eternities. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. Public displays of affection PDA show a lack of self-control.
There is no such thing as a perfect Mormon family- regardless of whether the parents are sealed or not. Of course, your parents will care most. I am so happy to have found this blog.
Might be worth working through the missionary lessons and CES letter to see if they can agree at least to disagree. You should take all of the above advice to heart and follow it just in case, so you can make a smooth transition should it ever be necessary. Interesting to read the concerns of so many doctor's wives. IF she becomes an Atheist free thinker like you then consider keeping her. But we Always had time for each other. Don't forget too that IF you are successful in turning the lights on and deconverting her, the family would resent you the rest of their lives. Sorry you had to go through this, but it's for the best if she's about to leave on a mission. I feel very discouraged. The divorce factor may allow some women to experience single-faith marriage at some point as some Mormon men marry multiple Mormon women over the course of their lifetimes, but the overall point stands: The only options for these women involve seeking a partner outside of the church, or a lifetime of celibacy.
I am in the IT field, and so have no medical knowledge at all. Work on myself, not him. Either it's enough for you - or it's not. Pay for the first few dates.